“Boundaries have never felt safe because having them meant losing people. But I am learning that if I assert a boundary and I then lose that person, I was right to assert that boundary.” I think about this often. I know that if I had set boundaries right away, my ex and I wouldn’t have lasted more than a month. I regret not doing it because instead, I spent 5 years in hell. Your article is a great reminder for all of us. Thank you! I will be sharing this one.