Trace3, Your response means a lot to me. Although, I want/need to share the perspective of a partner of someone with mental health/substance abuse disorders I also do not want to add to the stigmatization of people with them. You show a deep level of self-awareness and compassion to your ex, that is a huge step in recovery (as I am sure you know). My ex couldn’t handle it when I finally put down some boundaries to keep myself safe and healthy and he turned on me. It has been one of the saddest times in my life. I gave him everything I could and it was never enough. Because it can’t be right? He has to do the work himself. Thanks again for reading and your kind words. I wish you continued success in your recovery journal.